“Let’s talk about sex baby, let’s talk about you and me, let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that will be …”Name the song—without Googling it. Kudos to those of you who remember the wicked hot Salt-N-Pepa song. I had just graduated high school when the song was released but I still remember it … although truthfully, I don’t think I know any of the words other than those.
But, moving on … this page isn’t supposed to be a walk down what-used-to-play-on-my-Sony-Walkman lane … it’s supposed to be about what’s playing on mind, now. Literally, and figuratively. It’s supposed to be about sex. Yes, sex. S. E. X. Well, and maybe a little bit about food too.
You hear, time and time again, from relationship “experts” on the importance of intimacy between couples. And by intimacy, I’m clearly talking about the kind you share with one other person alone. The kind that wraps itself around you, breathes you in, and becomes an extension of your very being. The kind that leaves you longing for his (or her) touch the moment they step away. The kind that lets you unleash your greatest potential, both in and out of the bedroom.
“Does it ever stop? The wanting you? Even when I’ve just left ye, I want you so much my chest feels tight and my fingers ache with wanting to touch ye again.” ~ Jamie, Outlander
The first time we—meaning my favorite man and me—had sex was … oh, wait. Hold on. Did you really think I was going to tell you about it? Nah. That’s private … I mean sure I could throw out a coined “it was amazing” blah, blah, blah … “unforgettable” blah, blah, blah … but I won’t. Because for as much as both of those sentiments are true, they lack any real truth. Although real descriptions are, I’m sure, what you really want to read. Hey, I’m not dumb. I’ve seen all the Fifty Shades movies. And there’s a reason why Outlander is so popular (just ask my favorite man, he says he likes the story … I say he likes the sex scenes). Regardless, let me just say this: sex is important. Really, really, important. Being with someone who ignites your mind AND has the ability to light a fire inside of you is rare, but it’s something everyone should strive to find. Because it’s out there, and because you deserve it.
Case in point … while living on opposite sides of the country and not seeing each other for a few months, Mr. Gastro and I still had an amazing sex life. Unconventional, sure, but graphic AF thanks to the virtual world and our ability to sync with one another. Trust me on this, phone sex with the right person is sublime. Maybe not quite as sublime as the time he undressed me in front of a mirror and had his way with me, but sublime nonetheless.
I swear to you I won’t stop until your legs are shaking and the neighbors know my name …
So remember this always peeps, we are born to think, to be, to enjoy life … and a big part of that is sex. As it should be. So while your sex life might not be sizzling hot, you have the power to change that. Get rid of what isn’t working. Get inside your own head, your fears, your desires … and go for it. Cook a meal together and when he turns to the stove, hop your hot little ass onto the counter and spread your legs, lean back a little and when he turns around tell him you want him to take you right there. And then maybe you too can create a love story, both in and out of the kitchen.
Oh, just make sure he’s not browning pine nuts … because those burn quickly and they’re expensive as shit ; )